Frame of Reference

During this challenging and disruptive time, I think it’s important for all of us to revisit and perhaps reestablish what I call our ‘frame of reference’. This frame of reference is a constellation of ‘points of reference’ that consists of the people, institutions, and barometers that we turn to in order to weigh, measure, define, … More Frame of Reference

The Last Brahmin (Well, We Hope Not)

“And this is good old Boston, The home of the bean and the cod, Where the Lowells talk only to Cabots, And the Cabots talk only to God.” Henry Cabot Lodge, Jr., of Boston served his country for most of his life. According to family and friends, he really didn’t have a choice. His ancestors … More The Last Brahmin (Well, We Hope Not)

The Refresher: From Susan Cheever

Reprinted from Newsweek magazine…August 2012.   How Modern Preppies Got the Style But Forgot the Values BY SUSAN CHEEVER ON 8/6/12 AT 1:00 AM EDT Oprah Winfrey may give away millions, but titans with a conscience have been on the wane since John D. Rockefeller’s day.CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: BETTMANN-CORBIS; STEPANE DE SAKUTIN / AFP-GETTY IMAGES; … More The Refresher: From Susan Cheever

Trust Me, We’ll Have Funds

Maurice, one of our community’s longtime members, asked a question recently about the role of trust funds. Of course, the term is probably one of the first things most people think about when they hear the term ‘Old Money’, with a list running something like: preppy, trust fund, Volvo, Nantucket, gin and tonic, cardigan and … More Trust Me, We’ll Have Funds

The Importance of Keeping a Secret

In this digital age when over-sharing is de rigueur, I think it’s important to revisit from time to time the concept of keeping a secret. Privacy, which is a Core Value of Old Money, is a general concept. Keeping a secret is a specific, tangible choice. The difference between the two makes the latter worth … More The Importance of Keeping a Secret

Noblesse Oblige: A Working List for the Low Key Rich

I’ve made it my mission over the past few years to articulate the fundamentals of the Old Money culture. The way we dress, the way we spend (or, more often that not, don’t spend), the priorities, the values, the habits. There’s another aspect that I touch on a little less often, and that’s the obligations … More Noblesse Oblige: A Working List for the Low Key Rich

Old Money: In Their Own Words

I graduated from law school wanting to help people. I started practicing in a rough neighborhood, representing people who otherwise couldn’t afford a decent attorney. I ate at the local cafe and engaged people socially and tried to become part of the community. It wasn’t working. I’d been raised in New Haven. I was young … More Old Money: In Their Own Words