As some of you know, I’m currently working on the next Old Money title, tentatively christened “Old Money, New Woman”. As we wrap up the editing process, we’ll be speaking with book publicists, cover designers, influencers, agents, and publishers to get as much traction and exposure when the new book hits the marketplace. If any of you know someone in the industry who might be able to assist, please feel free to contact me privately.
The next book is a natural follow up to “The Old Money Book” and “The Old Money Guide To Marriage.” It may be the last of the Old Money series for me as an author, but it is the first of this series to be written specifically for women.
During the writing, rewriting, and editing process, some of the things I wrote initially, of course, will not end up in the final version of the book. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t worthwhile concepts. It simply means they didn’t fit with all of the other ideas and information that will be in the book.
To that end, below is brief ‘Deleted Scene’ from Old Money, New Woman. Enjoy…and of course I’ll keep you posted as we progress.
Old Money Favorites: Definition and Structure
Old Money Gals and their families love definition and structure. For social events, these two things reduce the chances of confusion or disappointment and increase the chances of the hosts and guests being able to enjoy themselves to the fullest.
Definition and structure allow people to be informed about the parameters and expectations of a social event. It’s easier to know if the event is something you’d like to attend. Preparation for the event is made simple: you know what to wear, what to expect, when to arrive, and when to go home. Knowing all these, it’s easier to accept, dress appropriately, relax, and enjoy yourself.
As an example, you might receive a voicemail like this: ‘Hello, Jessica, this is Miranda. I wanted to invite you to dinner at my house next Saturday evening. My parents are in from out of town, and a couple of college classmates will also be there. I think it’s a group you’ll enjoy. Drinks at 7:30, sit down for dinner at 8. Let me know if you can make it. Thanks, bye.’
At first, this might seem like a casual, almost off-hand invitation. More closely examined, however, the offer is very polite and informative. First, you know what the event is. It’s drinks and dinner. It’s at her house, so it’s probably not formal. Other guests include her family and friends she’s known for awhile, so that adds an element of comfort for you. And it probably won’t be a late evening.
The ‘environment’ and the ‘situation’ are simple, straightforward, predictable, and safe. It’s an easy invitation to accept and look forward to. Typically Old Money.
Larger, more formal events are still marked by the same definition and structure. A holiday celebration at the club will have a schedule. Drinks at a certain time, dinner served at a certain time, and then dancing until whenever. Dress codes are often obvious, and sometimes plainly articulated (black tie, blazer and tie, evening attire, etc.) Note: if you have a question, just ask. No one’s going to think less of you for doing so.
These directions make it easier for guests and newcomers to fit in, know what’s expected, and assimilate with the group. Of course, as people get to know each other better over time, some of the formalities will be set aside. Still, it will be rare for an Old Money Gal to invite you over ‘just to hang out’. There’s usually definition and structure to the event, even if it’s very casual in appearance.
Look for these characteristics in the events you’re invited to. The more structure and definition, the better odds that you’ll have a good time.