Many people work at jobs that are not very demanding, physically or mentally, and at the end of the week find themselves exhausted. They really need the weekend–as well as the long weekends and holidays that are sprinkled throughout the calendar year–to recover.
Other people have jobs that demand all of their mental and physical capabilities for hours–even days–on end and then race off to the shore or mountains for a day or two of vigorous exercise. They seem constantly energized, despite their vocational requirements.
The difference? The difference is that when we have mixed emotions, or predominantly negative emotions, about our work, we become tired while doing it. We even become fatigued thinking about doing it. When we have positive emotions about our work, we look forward to it and, even though it can be exhausting, it seems to be exhilarating as well.
We have to have the courage to pursue the profession that we’re passionate about, in spite of the perceived economic consequences. This may seem contrary to the concept of becoming Old Money, as Old Money requires money to begin with. But choosing a career simply because you may make a lot of money at it is a losing proposition in the long run.
Why? Because you think money will make you happy. To a certain degree, you are right, but you are right to a very small degree. After certain material comforts are acquired, a void will emerge inside you. You will try to buy another material possession to fill that void. You will try to have more sex, drink more alcohol, take some drugs. All of these things are available to you because you are making a lot of money.
But you will not not happy. You will not be happy because you are not doing what you find fulfilling and rewarding with your life. So the money doesn’t matter, after a certain point and to a very large degree.
Do not believe that money will make you happy: know that happy will make you money. When you are happy doing what you love, you will work harder at it and be better at it. You will attract the resources you need to do whatever it is that you want to do, regardless of your income. Why? Because people and money are attracted to purpose. They are attracted to joy. They are attracted to you when you’re making your own dreams come true.
So have the guts to search the midnight of your soul and choose your career based on the what you really love doing, not what you think–or someone else thinks–you should be doing.
You will require less material possessions when you are happy. You will care considerably less about the car you drive and the clothes you wear. You will be happier, healthier, and live longer. You’ll be a hero to yourself.
Men and boys and the price of their toys pale in comparison to someone whose labor of love is the source of their joys.
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My wife is a pre-K Teacher and comes home exhausted practically every night. I work at a national Home Improvement chain, run around all day and though I come home tired I still find the time to do housework, dinner, and want to go places. My wife is sometimes stifled by my energy no matter what time it is. I think the differences is that she is in the area of her profession that she strived for while I am shooting for management someday. I have a business degree and can be making much more money at other areas of business. My wife and I had many discussions about this and have realized my dreams.. But I truly believe if you have a career that you are passionate about, not just because it makes you more money. that you need to go after it. But my passion is retail management, I love dealing with the public.
Thank you for the comment, American. Congratulations to you and your wife for doing what you love. I can understand that she’d be a little tired after teaching other people’s children all day! Good luck to both of you! – Byron
Beautifully written. Couldn’t agree more.
I loved this!
But what do you recommend to those of us who need to work in a high-paid profession to just break even and start living their “dream” career? I.e. me…
Everyone’s situation is unique, but this is my advice: first, know that you’re making a transition. You might be working at a “real job” right now, but you are moving toward your “dream career”. Second, budget your time and money. You’re required to work at your “dream” when you aren’t working the job. It will take time–evenings and weekends, probably–and it will take some money, I’d guess (lessons, equipment, etc.) You will need to learn this discipline now, as it’s essential to being your own boss. Look at your calendar. How much “prime time” i.e. time that’s not committed to a job, are you spending productively? Watching too much television? Shopping when you don’t need anything? Be honest. The same objective review applies to your household budget. The Old Money Book can help with spending wisely. It’s available on Amazon and costs three bucks. Finally, congratulations to you. You’ve got a dream you’re working to achieve. Thank you for the comment.
Perhaps,you should work on the “breaking even” part first.